How do you get comfortable with being uncomfortable???

Okay, I get it. NO one likes to change.  Actually, we all have a physical reaction when something changes, good or bad.  We’ve all heard about the effects of stress on our bodies and the damage it can do?  Well what causes stress… CHANGE!  So any common sensed individual would be screaming right now, so WHY WOULD I WANT TO CHANGE?  Because some changes, while they may be difficult for us to go through in the moment will BENEFIT our overall health, both physical and emotional, long-term.  Sometimes we have to step back and think of the bigger picture…

What have you been wanting to change in your life?  There must be something!?  I am always a body in motion.  I am growing, learning and changing every single day.  Some may beg to differ that I will change in my personality, ahem ahem my father (who I live with!) lol, but for the most part, I am willing to adapt!  😛 Do you want to change your body?  Eat better? Give up smoking? Save more money? Get out of debt?  Well… you’re going to have to change something to get to that goal, because right now WHAT YOU’RE DOING ISN’T WORKING.  I don’t mean to CAPS yell at you.  Well, I guess I do, but it’s just so you can understand!  You really have to look internally and think about what the cause is.  Why isn’t what you’re doing to work toward your goal working?  Obviously something isn’t working!  We can all come up with excuses, “Well so and so brought in a cake last Friday, and I had to eat some or they would be offended” or “My friends wanted to go shopping, and I couldn’t just go and not buy something”.  There is always an excuse so that we don’t have to change.  It’s our “scapegoat”.  What we need to stop doing is looking at others and start looking at ourselves.  Because, for the most part, that’s where the stem of the problem is.  And if you aren’t willing to change your habit or behavior, then things will NEVER change, and could even get worse.  For example, bad eating habits… you keep eating poorly or making excuses, you’re going to continue to gain weight or, even worse, could develop a health condition.  If you don’t stop spending money, you’re just going to go further and further into debt.

We have to get a little uncomfortable to get what we want!

 

Now, I do a lot of personal development.  I listen to a lot of podcasts talking about this idea of change, and that we need to change.  We should work  to create new habits, etc.  Some of them get me so fired up, but then they don’t follow through on giving me the tools to do so!  I still love them though.  They’re like the cheerleaders to the tools that I’ve collected in other places!  I’m going to share some tips that have collected and that have worked for me.  They may not work for you… but I know I’m a pretty tough cookie to crack, so if they work for me, they might be worth a shot in giving them a try.  These are pretty amendable, so they could be transitioned for different situations.

·         You have to more than one goal.  I’ve said this before.  You can’t jump a staircase, or a mile.  You have to take it ONE STEP at a time.  What does one step entail?  It’s basic, I know.  It’s putting one foot in front of the other.  But each of those steps is a goal to get you to the end point.  I try to think of it like a staircase.  I start with my main goal.  And then I look at it in pieces, what is it going to take to get me to that goal?  I then think of a mid-point and then work my way out from there.  I take as many steps as I need to succeed.  It’s going to be individual for each of you.  As an example…. My dog needs to lose weight.  Here’s his step chart!

 

o   Lose 15 lbs Weight (2-3 months)

     §  Go for 2 10 minutes walks twice a day (week 4)

·              Cut back dog food by ½ cup (Week 3)

                      o   Go on a 10 minute walk twice a day (Week 2)

                              §  Cut back dog food ¼ cup in morning (week 2)

·                                        Walk fumble to the end of the driveway 3 x day (Week 1)

                                                    o   Cut back dog food ¼ cup in the evening (week 1)

As you can see… I created a step chart, and then I added a timeline for each item! I also set realistic timelines.  I have never had a dog lose weight before, let alone a 200 lb creature.  So… I set my goal time a little extended.  I knew how to manage his food, and I know his walk schedule and that we had to increase his resistance for walks.  Change was uncomfortable for him.  He hates walks.  He was starving and asking for more food.  BUT, I didn’t give into him begging.  It was uncomfortable for him because he was hungry and his schedule was messed up.  It was uncomfortable for me because A. I had to change my schedule to walk him, (as well as my dad) and B. we had to say “no” to him when he was begging.  I kept thinking that I wanted a dog that was going to be around longer… and then it hit me.  My goal wasn’t for him to lose 15 lbs.  It’s bigger than that, it’s for him to be around longer and enjoy his doggy life.

Now, I know this is a silly example.  But it’s easy to understand for the steps.  Does it?  Please let me know

·         YOU HAVE TO step out of your comfort zone.  One of my goals is to meet new people, and make some new friends.  I have to step out of my comfort zone and put myself out there to do this.  I’m not going to attract friends while sitting at my desk, or in my house on the weekends.  I have to constantly talk to strangers.  I KNOW this is something we are told not to do as children.  However, I know my Turbo Fire and Les Mills moves!  I can bring it if I need to! 😛 I also know who I shouldn’t just go up to and strike a conversation with! Lol.  I have also stepped out of my wheelhouse and have gone to a few meetups from meetup.com.  To me, this is the equivalent of blind dating for friends.  It is NOT easy! And it’s hard to do on your own, but I did it!!  And I will continue to attend them!  It’s a great way to meet new people!

·         Visualize.  We can all set action statements.  My goal is… However, I think it’s important to give a reason why.  And I think it’s important to rephrase into as much of a positive statement as possible.  When I succeed, I will… For example…. When I lose weight, I will be able to play with my children outside.  Put a reward to it!  Aren’t we all more apt to do something if there is a reward attached?  Pavlov’s Dog 101!

·           Make a competition for yourself!  Join an accountability group.  Do something that will hold you accountable daily.  This can be as simple as going to the dollar store and getting gold star stickers and putting a sticker on every day that you do some type of fitness!  You will enjoy putting that gold star on that calendar!  Or post your photos on IG.  It will be like a daily goal for you.  I can eat clean because I need to post my meals on Instagram!

·         Don’t stop learning.  Educate yourself as much as you can about behaviors, or things related to your goal.  I have podcasts galore on my iphone and I buy self-help audiobooks and listen to them when I’m driving to and from work.  Most audiobooks come with the book section as well for you to track your notes!

·         Try to surround yourself with people that won’t sabotage your success.  For example, if you’re trying to quit smoking, you won’t stand outside with your normal crowd for 10 minute breaks.  That would be like hanging a mouse in front of a cat!  You want to surround yourself with ‘Like-minded’ individuals.  Join a new club, or a book group!  Or join a walking or running group.  Most running shoe stores actually have running groups that you can join!

·         Manage your surroundings!  Don’t buy unhealthy food.  If it’s in your cabinet, it’s only going to whisper your name.  Eat me, Eiren.  Eat me, Eiren.  It’s like Alice and Wonderland in your cupboards.  I try not to buy anything with sugar.  If I want something, I have to go out and buy it.  And more than likely in that entire process, is the bar of chocolate REALLY that worth it for the gas it’s going to cost for me to go purchase it?  Sometimes yes, but most times no.

·         Set reminders on your phone.  You can even get creative and visual with this one!  For example.  I snack while I make dinner.  Well, most nights I make dinner at the same time.  I can always set up reminders to show myself photos of my “sweaty selfies” or that bikini that I’ve been eyeing to buy.  Those reminders will trigger me to STOP and think about my habit!

·         Invest in your goal.  For example, if you are trying to lose weight.  Give yourself a reward (this goes back to the reward concept) for every day that you ate 100% clean.  This may not be every day because, heck, I eat healthy and I’m not “clean” everyday!  So say for every day you put $5 in a jar.  Well, at the end of the year I bet you’ll have a nice little jar all set up for something to treat yourself to.  Or perhaps enough to go away for the night and celebrate that new little body you’ve been working hard for!

·         Know your triggers.  This is a hard one because you have to put some thought into it.  I’ve heard people say that they mindlessly eat when they watch tv.  Well, instead of eating while watching tv, pick up a new habit.  Learn to knit.  Or brush the dog.  Or get up and jump rope or do some pushups when you get that “food urge”.  Most of us don’t drink enough water through the day, so I turned my mindless eating habit into drinking water.  I’ll get up and go to the kitchen, but instead of filling a bowl, I refill my water bottle.

Always remember that you are more likely to succeed if you plan for your “future” self.  These may seem like a lot of steps and a lot of work to do upfront.  However, if you don’t make time and change, then you’ll never change!  And if you don’t change… you don’t succeed.

What’s the worst that can happen?  At least if you TRY, then you are setting the wheels into motion and YOU ARE ALREADY CHANGING AND GROWING.  You aren’t standing still any longer!!

I hope this rambling , long post made some sense!

Oxo

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What are some changes that you have struggled with before?

What are some tips that have worked for you to create new habits and grow?

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P90X Progress and a “Diet” Decision

Happy Sunday!! I hope you are all enjoying the day!  I know that Sunday is typically the day of “rest”, and i am not resting, but not after kicking my butt with pushups today!  I have finally entered Phase 2 of P90X!  Today was the Chest, Shoulders, and Triceps workout.  I can now state that I am fully aware of why people grunt at the gym.  When you’re working HARD, and you to stop or put the weights down, it’s sheer loveliness and you can’t help but breathe! I am pretty sure i won’t be able to feel my chest tomorrow though, no more pushups!

Here is my update from Month 1!

Week 3 Progress:

Week 4:

I should also say that I have started to incorporate some of my Turbofire workouts back in!  I missed them so much! 😛  I’m such a cardio junkie.

I will say, i have noticed my abs are much more tight!  I still have that stupid lower belly bloat.  Stupid IBS!  But this is where my diet decision comes in to play.  Hold that thought… want to stay on P90 for a moment!

So because I’m doing the TurboFire, I think I will stay with Classic for this round.  I was thinking of going to doubles, but if i’m doing intense cardio, there is no need.  I have read TOO MANY TIMES from other gals doing intense lifting and gym workouts that cardio is not necessary every day.  So, for now, i’m sticking with classic!!  I also intend to implement this new diet plan AND my shakeology every single day! I just got a new bag on Friday, and I am going to have a shake or a meal with the shake for 1 meal.  That’s it, i’m sticking to it!!

Okay so onto the diet decision!  Have you ever felt overwhelmed by all the “diet plans” out there?? I hate to call them diets, such a negative connotation to that word.  Heck, Trish Blackwell put it great, the word D I E is in there!  I’m not dying! I’m not going to go on a diet, because diets are temporary, you stop and then almost always gain whatever you lost right back.  I’m eating for a lifestyle… for life! I am just going to call it my EAT FOR LIFE!  So which plan to choose? There are many out there: raw, paleo, vegetarian, low fat, no carb, point programs, cleanses..etc, etc… I’m already gluten and dairy free by requirement, not choice.  Sorry Gluten, i’m just not that into you, OR rather, my body isn’t.

In the last few months, I’ve been toying with the idea of which plan to choose that will help parallel my allergies/sensitivities.  I did a lot of research on the paleo diet, especially because i’m already gluten and dairy free.  I thought it would be an easier transfer.  I basically already eat that way, however I don’t eat meat, and I feel like a lot of the recipes out there that I get through blogs and email are focused on high protein meats and fats.  I don’t eat meat, so why would I eat lard?? PS. I was surprised by a podcast when they said that lard is full of vitamins.  Who knew!??!! I’m definitely going to keep getting my blog emails and updates about Paleo recipes, because it does make sense!  The Caveman philosophy is very easy to follow!  However…

I was all gung ho to give it a shot with my already in place lifestyle when I wondered across the Eat Clean Diet.  I think it was Kasey at Powercakes that mentioned Tosca Reno in a post.  I recognized Tosca’s face from her book covers!  After reading a little bit, I went to the book store that weekend and perused through her book.  They didn’t have the exact book in her Eat Clean Series that I wanted to buy, so I just sort of stood there in the aisle and read it.  Have you ever done that??  Just stand in an aisle at Barnes and Noble and read?  I almost thought about sitting down right there on the carpet.  I could have found a chair, but there were none around that were available.  So I leaned up beside the bookstand and read…. and read. And I liked what I read!  It seems pretty basic!

Eating Clean is treating your body right.

It is eating the way nature intended. You eat the foods our bodies evolved to function best on, and that makes you feel – and look – fantastic. When you Eat Clean you eat more often. You will eat lean protein, complex carbs, and healthy fats. These practices keep your blood-sugar levels stable and keep you satisfied. The best part is that if you need to lose weight it will happen almost without you having to try. And yes, you can have a treat now and again.

Best of all, Eating Clean keeps you feeling great and full of energy. In fact, you can forget all about the days when “dieting” meant feelings of hunger, lethargy or deprivation.

Eating Clean is not a fad; it’s a way of life. When you Eat Clean your body will react by losing weight if you need to lose, maintaining a healthy weight if that’s where you are, and even gaining weight if you are too skinny. But regardless of whether you want to lose, maintain or gain, you will feel better than you ever have before.

I now have my plan in placE!! I ordered the book I wanted, and am going 100% into this!  I have researched the site and already saved some of my favorite recipes!  Eating Clean just seems to natural and most of all EASY!! No calorie counting, no points, just eating REAL food!  🙂

PLUS, I also heard the beautiful Chalene Johnson on a live webcast re-state something I have heard over and over again.  ABS ARE MADE IN THE KITCHEN.  Her words, if you eat clean then you really don’t need to do ab workouts. I completely agree with this statement! I eat mostly clean already, however even when I overeat on healthy foods I feel bloated and gross.  Why do I always want to feel bloated and gross?  So that’s what I’m taking a change!  A. to not feel bloated and gross, B. to have a great support system for healthy meals, and C. to just keep working on those flat abS! 😛  I don’t workout every day for an hour or longer to sabotage my results! Otherwise, it’s a waste of time!!  We only get so few precious moments on this earth, might as well feel my best and make them count!!  🙂
Do you follow a healthy eating plan?

Are you a clean eater?  What is your favorite recipe??

Press delete on Negativity!!

Okay, so where have I been??? I just realized today that I haven’t posted in so long!  Well, here’s an update!  I’ll start with the bad and then get to the good.  Bad, I’ve been in to Maine, had an interview with what I thought was my “dream” job, and didn’t get it!  Oh well, It’s definitely a burn and punch to the gut, but I keep telling myself it wasn’t meant to be.  So now, the plan is to just go.  My dad wants to come with me!  So the house is on the market, and we’re starting to call condos today to see if they will take a rental with a newf!  Fingers crossed.  Once I get there, i’ll go to a temp agency or even just take 2 jobs!  I will make it work!!  I will!!

Now, the good!! In my journey to and from Maine, I got to meet 2 new amazing men!!!!  🙂  I got to meet my best friend, Jackie’s new man.  🙂  I approve!!  Second, I got to meet a very special man in my life. Another one of my best friend, Sarah and Jake’s new lil man, Bryce Thomas!  I have never held a week old baby before! So I was definitely nervous holding him, but i love him! He is full of personality in those beautiful eyes!  Congratulations to the new mama and papa!! xoxo

I also have started an amazing Challenge with my girl, Heather!!  We are doing a Slim in 6 Slimdown for Halloween.  I am also doing a second challenge in collaboration but with Turbofire!  They both started yesterday, Monday, and I am soooo shocked at the amazing support these women are providing to each other!!  I can only see amazing things happening!!

You can do it ladies!! Heather and I are so proud of you already!!! And my Turbofire girls are amazing!! Keep that fire burning!!

Now, onto my post!!

I’m stealing this theme from Joel Osteen! I must preface this by saying there are topics I don’t like to talk about, religion and policits being two! But! Recently I have become more faithful. I sort of went through a period of strain in my beliefs. I am finding that in that struggle it only got stronger.
We all have our own beliefs and I am 100% tolerant of every persons beliefs and thoughts! Heck, I’m catholic and right now I’m more drawn to the sermons of Joel Osteen.
Whatever works, to each his own! The power of the being in an Independent country, we can all choose our own paths!

But that being said, I listened to a powerful topic about deleting negative thoughts. I think it goes beyond religion. This message can transcend into each of our lives.  We can delete the horrible lies we tell ourselves! Because that’s what negative thoughts are, lies!


As a society, we put so much pressure on ourselves. It’s almost as if telling ourselves all the bad things that we feel has completely taken over any positive affirmations. We need to STOP! And we need to praise ourselves. Get into the habit.


We, myself included, need to start patting ourselves on the back! We all make small strides through the day, we can get into the habit. We can stop focusing on what we’re not doing and start on what we ARE!
For example, today I ate clean! Pat on the back! I supported local farmers instead of going to the grocery store, PAT! I applied to two jobs and looked for over an hour! PAT! I can very easily throw a list of all the negative things in my day! It actually took me a minute to come up with some good things. If we make a point to point out (no pun) the accomplishments we will begin to train our brains! Muscle memory!


You are beautiful, confident, committed, and charming! You are meant to be a wonderful person! You just need to look in the mirror!
I have heard about this challenge from Trish Blackwell, and i dare each of you to make a list of 50 positive things that you are!! Do it!  Write down everything you think positive about yourself.  It might take a while, maybe even a day or two, but do it!  Get into that habit!
Start to press delete on negative thoughts!!

If you make your list, take a photo and tag #thinkpositive!!  😛

Do you struggle to stay positive??

Are you a faithful person?  What do you believe in?? (I always find others beliefs so interesting! and educational!) ****** NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS ALLOWED, WE ARE ALL ALLOWED TO THINK HOW WE WANT TO *************

Double, Double, Toil and Trouble!

One of the reasons that I joined the social network, like Beachbody and Tone It Up, was to expand my network of like-minded people.  I have a small social circle, and most of my best friends live far away from me.  I have been so fortunate in a short amount of time to meet some amazing, creative and motivating women!!

I was so fortunate to meet a beautiful new friend, Heather, a follow Tone It Upper from CA. We are bi-coastal, but have bonded over our drive to help motivate and encourage other people to get healthy!  That’s all it takes, is one small idea! And a friendship growS!! 🙂

We have joined forces for the last two week… we got together over our boiling pots and wrote a spell for your fitness success!!  Give us 15 days! That’s it!! and we will work with you to succeed.

We have also done this with the focus on our Tone it Up girls and Self Magazine’s Breast Cancer Awareness Campaign, #LivePInk

I just heard that the United States over 8 million dollars on Halloween! Phew!!! That’s a lot of pumpkinS!! So wouldn’t you want to spend your money on an amazing costume and feel CONFIDENT in it??

If you’re interested in more information, please comment below!!

What has been your favorite Halloween Costume so far??